We hear it quite often from our friends or family members and it is almost made part of a normal day to day conversation. When people say to you that they “feel depressed” or they are “in depression”, we tell them that it is not a Big deal. That they can get over it , only if they try to get more busy or take up a hobby, or forget about it. We hear people say that there is nothing such as depression, it’s just a “phase” and they will get over it.
People do not choose depression, and it is not something that they wake up with one day. It takes months or even years for depression to fully show it’s true colors. It is building up inside of you each time you face any trauma.
Maybe it started to take its form when your parents forced Engineering on you, when your friends made fun of you and left you, when you broke up the first time, when you failed in a very important exam, when your partner treated you like trash.
Depression is the collective trauma that you went through in your life which went unresolved because you could not show how you were actually feeling. You could never speak about it because at that time it didn’t seem like a big deal, but now you do not know what to do when it is hitting in your face. Now, you can not seem to bring the energy in you to get out of your bed, you aren’t even sleeping, but you are too tired to get up and take a shower. You don’t feel like eating, or you are eating too much.
You feel numb and unable to understand what is happening to you. Maybe you are crying a lot and seem to be always on edge. With trembling hands you want to call someone for help but you don’t, instead you lie on the bathroom floor,crying and trembling.
You want to tell someone that you need help, but you can not because you don't know if they will judge you or not. You feel like you are alone in this and the world is against you. Depression is real and it can get the best out of a person. It makes you feel like you are in a constant loop.
While, therapy and medication is the best option to treat depression and be free from it, not many people are able to gather the courage to get help. They suffer in silence and are apprehensive to seek counselling.
For those people, there are somethings that can help you for a short while :
Think if you have a safety net, reach out to people whom you can trust, and share your pain with. It maybe your friends or cousins who can give you a sense of relief. You do not have to share your complete story with them, just seek some support emotionally.
As soon as you get up, make your bed, it may seem like a stupid thing to do, but doing this one small task will encourage you to do other small tasks like, brushing your teeth or taking a shower. A clean bed will make you want to sleep in it. Try it, it will surely make a difference.
Give yourself Positive Affirmations, watch the way you talk to yourself, it matters a lot. We are never conscious of how we speak to ourselves but it matters so much because in depression we are constantly telling ourselves things like :- “ you are worthless” , “you will never get things right” , “ you don't matter to any body”, “ you are a burden”.
Change your language towards yourself, it’s a lot of work and takes conscious effort, but it makes a huge difference. Like :- “ I feel worthless right now, but I know that is not true” , “ I feel like a failure right now but that doesn’t mean i am a failure, I will try harder”.
Keep a tab on what kind of content you are consuming on social media, it matters a lot, because if you are constantly feeding yourself negative content which makes you feel even more low, then change your habits of how you use social media. Change the kind of content you see and read. If it helps, even go off social media for a while to give yourself a short detox.
When you are feeling a certain emotion strongly,acknowledge your emotions. Allow yourself to feel that emotion. Eg, If you feel extremely sad and on the verge of crying, then do not stop yourself. Let it happen to you, feel your emotion and stay with it. When you allow yourself to feel, you will be able to then drain it. Otherwise it will stay somewhere in your body like a rotting apple.
While there are hundreds of other things that you can do, these are some that you can try if you are suffering in silence.
Your depression is real but that doesn’t mean that you cannot come out of it.
You are a true warrior.
To make a breakthrough from depression, you will have to put in the work.
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